Somerset, 2019, my last good photo of her.
I met this young Washington andd Lee woman when she was helping the fledgling VMI cheerleading squad and she was attending ROTC and Arabic classes.
She began seeking my advice on becoming a Marine officer, and a friendship formed over my coffee and her amazing biscotti.
My first impression of her was not good, though I thought she could be cute if she tried. My opinion changed when she attended the army ROTC dining-in. She looked really pretty, and I determined that I would one day take her photo.
When I asked, she was all about it. The more I took her photo, the more comfortable and confident she became. We made hundreds of beautiful photos together for over ten years.
Then, life happened. She graduated, moved away, married her boyfriend, wisely divorced his abusive ass, got out of the Marines, took a thankless government job, and stopped carring about herself. She was simply not the same happy young woman any more. and I blame him.
In an archiving mistake and a computer crash, I lost most of her photos, though I found these in an old webpage photo file. They are a good representation of the body of work.
VMI, 2009
Blueridge, 2010
Antietam, 2011
Lexington, about 2012
Lexington, 2012
Fredricksburg, 2013
Studio. 505, 2017
Sad Girl, 2017
Staunton Sushi, 2017
In a fit of anger (righteous indignation?) over the damage to my camera when she borrowed it (Note Below), I purged her from my site and journal and cut her completely out of my life. I'm over the anger now but do not care to have further contact with her. I miss the photo subject, not the person.
Back in film camera days, I bought a second Canon body to carry my AE-1 Program with black and white in one and color in the other. I purchased a new Canon A-1 at the PX. The A-1 became my go-to 35mm film camera. I gave my AE-1 program to a cadet.
When another young "friend" told me she was taking a college photography course, I loaned her my Canon equipment. I emphasized how much the camera meant to me and asked her to take "exceptional care" of it.
She returned it damaged. There was a big dent in the top cover of my camera and a crack from the dent to the main body. I didn't notice it until I got home, and she, sure as hell, failed to mention it. There was also a sticky mess on the bottom of my camera bag. My camera had either been dropped or something was dropped on top of it. Sloppy!
Not OK! Though it will only cost me $15 and some work to replace the top, what the hell?
From 2024 Notes